This wasn't something I ever considered, you are a mum, and it's easy to constantly put your babies needs before you, it's instinct. I did this, but suddenly I started feeling down, like I'm not me any more I'm her mum. I think it's important to maintain your identity. I decided to have a bit of make over, I went shopping for a couple of new tops, just more feminine things, I made sure I took time to put a bit of make up on to do my hair nice, and it made me feel wonderful, I started making more of an effort to see my friends and make plans. I think there is an element of mothers feeling guilty about occasionally putting yourself first, but if you feel good you relay that to your baby. Yes you have a baby, but you are still important. You still deserve to feel attractive, you still deserve to feel like you. It's very easy to feel frumpy and unattractive when you've just had a baby, and it's okay to feel like that, and it's also okay to take some time to make you feel good again.